Talk Less, Do More
Introduction
This will probably sound weird and outlandish at first but talking about your goals and ambitions does more harm than good, unless it’s with a legitimate accountability partner or group. Otherwise you’re just seeking validation from something you haven’t actually done.
Example
We all have that one friend who in new year’s eve proclaims to everyone his ambitious plans to go to the gym or read books, etc and then buys new workout clothes installs habit tracking apps,.. In fact he’s so excited about it as if he actually did something and then he throws all these plans away after one week.
Personal Experience
One of the things I have learned over the years is that nobody cares about what you say you’re going to do and you shouldn’t either. Having ambition isn’t special almost everyone has ambition, whatever your goal is there’s probably millions of people with that same goal, unless it’s a really weird goal.
Alternative
So instead of telling your peers how you are going to eat healthy this year give your tongue a rest and actually do it for a few weeks or even months without telling a soul, learn to embrace the process of pushing yourself and achieving things when nobody is watching. After all you are doing this for yourself, aren’t you? Just imagine the confidence boost you’ll get if you read 50 books without telling random people about it.
Conclusion
To conclude, announcing you goals widens your “Intention-behavior gap”. Which in psychology is the disconnect between knowing what you should do and actually doing it. When you tell someone your goal and they affirm it you get this fake sense of satisfaction that’s what we call “Social reality”.
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